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Materials used in
Tony's treatment program

 Warning: these materials are sexually explicit and seethe with hatred.

Ethical Treatment for All Youth
www.ethicaltreatment.org
Email:
etay@ethicaltreatment.org

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A MOTHER'S POEM

The world sees my son
As a sex offender
That's what Texas says he is
He was all of 17 years old
When he had sex with a teenage girl
Like others his age and gender
He was experimenting
Looking for acceptance, experiencing adult like behavior
Nothing more than he's seen on television and in the movies
Completely consensual
 
And now, he is labeled
He is a predator
He wouldn't make a good neighbor
According to the registry
He's too dangerous
He cannot find work or housing
 
But if he were allowed the truth
Then you would see
A perfect freckled face, framed by
A red head
You would see the little boy who once
Gathered pillow, food and necessities to give
To a homeless man at the park near our house
 
Instead, they call him a pervert
And tell him there is no cure
For his deviant behavior
They demand he write in fictitious fashion
To satisfy his 'therapy' requirements
It doesn't matter that what is written is a lie
As long as he's saying he victimized
It doesn't matter that there was NO VICTIM
As long as others see him as a predator
 
But if he were allowed the truth
You would see my little boy
Who still struggles to be a proud man
You would see eyes that looked for a model
When there was none to be found
You would see big aspirations and great dreams
With potential to change the world
Yet no hope for a future
 
They would have you count him worthless
Not worthy of compassion
Not afforded forgiveness
He is to be stripped of all normality
And confined to a world of rejection
For his hideous crime of consensual teenage sex
 
But if he were allowed the truth
You would see the soft heart that longs for approval
A brother who defends his sisters
A son who loves his mother
A nice young man looking for a mate
 
No matter what they say,
I do know the truth
And that they cannot change
With their labels and their registry
And all this that is insane
 
I know the hurt he feels
And see his head hung down in shame
And I often wonder what lesson he's being taught
And what price he is paying
For the justice we all seek
And the safety of our children
 
After all, isn't that what this is all about?


By Tana Fillingame
Submitted November 7, 2007
Read her son's story here.